Juji's Blog

Yeah, I know it's a cliche, but 'tis true. I'm watching a girlfriend being toyed with by an emotional commitmaphobe, and it's painful to watch! He's the windsurfing, guitar-playing superhunk I may have written about before. Girls kinda go all wobbly and ga-ga in his presence - except me 'cos I already been through that stage with him and am pleased to say I'm over it. Pleased because I used to be attracted to emotionally dangerous guys who would incur enough damage to require hours of therapy - and now I'm not. I can sniff em out pretty quickly and piss them off into the wind before they have time to say, "I'm gonna chew you up and spit you out real bad".

Anyhow, my best friend and the gorgeous one are sort of seeing each other, but no one knows about it. If you ask me, keeping it a secret puts it in a shitty space - people keep things like STDs secret, don't they! He justifies it by saying it's not good for his musician image to have one girlfriend. I say it's a wanky excuse for being able to dilly-dally with lots of chicks. Maybe he has a harem and they all keep it a secret from each other.

Anyhow, a week will go by and he won't call. She'll be mightily pissed off for a coupla days, and then jump when he finally does call, rationalising that it's not set in concrete he ring her a certain number of times per week. He had a dinner party a few months back. There was a bunch of us, including my girlfriend and he also invited this chick who's got the hots for him. This gal with adoring eyes played a sort of wifely role all night. It was pretty obvious to all that there was somethin' going on and yet he invited my girlfriend too! It's bizarre behaviour if you ask me. It's kinda like he likes having lots of girls hanging around the edges but plays all these little games to keep them unsure of their position and basically in limbo land. It's starting to make my puke! He upset her so much over the weekend she sent him a text questioning whether their relationship can continue at all - pretty strong stuff. After not hearing from him for the next 24 hours, she sent him another one - a kinda smoothing over, friendly one. Aaaarrrggghhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!

Yeah, she's my friend. I gotta listen and support her. I can't say to her, he's an emotionally damaged individual, who likes to use you to stroke his very needy ego when it suits him, she has to work it out for herself. In the meantime, it's starting to bore and frustrate me to death. There is hope for her though as she does question whether she's too nice, too obliging, etc. As for another girlfriend of mine, there's little. She still chasing after a guy, who happens to be a musician as well, who deserted her twice through pregnancies and subsequent abortions, and then again to live with an Indian girl who's baby he'd just fathered. He's drug fucked, and I almost wish my friend was too as that would explain her behaviour - but she doesn't do drugs. She believes that she's the one she really loves. Der! It's been 18 years. GET OVER IT!!!!!!!!

What the hell is wrong with these chicks? Juji x